Every parent thinks his or her children are special. We all believe that our kids are the brightest, most beautiful, loving creatures on the planet. I’m certainly no exception to this. My kids are all of those things and more – to me. I recognize the gifts that each of my daughters possess. I admire each of them for theses gifts, and the way they choose to use and present these gift to the world.
I have experienced my motherhood journey in what seems like two different lifetimes. I became a mom to Allie and Sam when I was young – young and immature. I kind of grew up with them. Boy, did I learn a lot along the way. When I became a mom to Lily, some 13+ years into my first motherhood journey, I was in a completely different mindset. I had much more parenting experience under my belt, and with that experience came a whole lot of maturity and wisdom. This has allowed me to parent Lily with a very different perspective. I appreciate the ride that Lily and I are taking as mother and daughter in a way that I could not with Allie and Sam. This time around, I’m better able to filter and focus on the more meaningful things in my life. I’m able to let go of the rest. For this reason, I see Lily as special.
Lily is the piece of my life – of our entire family’s lives – that I didn’t know I was missing. I hardly remember a time when she wasn’t here. She is my ray of sunshine on the cloudiest of days. She has reminded me that life is to be lived one experience at a time. She has taught me the importance of allowing yourself to be “in the moment,” and that trying to rush through results in missing out on the tiny yet important facets of life that are so often taken for granted. I see rain clouds but Lily reminds me to look for the rainbow.
I admire Lily for her strong sense of self. I aspire to be like her. She is not concerned with impressing anyone with her clothing, possessions, or interests. Labels mean nothing to her. Her sense of style can only be described as akin to the lead character, “Blossom,” from the 1990 television sitcom of the same name. If it looks good to her, that’s all that matters. I am proud of her for not succumbing to the pressures of society to conform. She has a very highly developed sense of humor and a very “black and white” sense of right and wrong. Her perspective on life, while always interesting, is often eye opening and thought provoking. I hope that you will find her outlook, which I will share with you in this continuing series, “#LilyRules,” as humorous and enlightening as I do. I have my own personal little Aesop living with me.
Lily’s take on marriage and adoption…
Conversation Between Lily (7) and Allie (21):
L: I don’t want to get married.
A: Why not?
L: That’s just a lot to handle.
A: Good point.
L: I still want to be a mom, though.
A: Well, you could just adopt a baby.
L: What does that mean?
A: Well if a mom has a baby that she can’t take care of, she can give the baby up for adoption. Then you can adopt a baby and become the mom.
L: Yes! I’ll do that! I’ll adopt a baby!
A: That’s a great idea. Lots of babies need homes.
L: But what if I can’t find the adoption place?
A: I’m sure you could just look it up.
L: Oh yeah. I could just check how to get there on Waze.
My takeaway from this conversation – knowing where you are going is often as important as knowing why you’re going there. #LilyRules.